Mistress Matisse (born November 21, 1971) is an American professional dominatrix, blogger, and long-running columnist for the Seattle alternative newspaper The Stranger. Her bi-weekly column, The Control Tower, has offered sexuality-related advice spanning polyamory, kink practice, the business realities of professional domination, and the wider culture of BDSM communities. For readers who want pro-domme voice mixed with city-paper column craft, she has been one of the more durable public faces of Seattle leather and SM literacy.
Column, Blog, and Podcast Presence
Matisse’s writing for The Stranger dates from at least November 2001 and has continued for years as a regular venue where kink is treated as adult life with logistics—clients, boundaries, poly schedules, scene politics—not only as fantasy costume. She has also kept a personal journal-style blog and a professional site for her Seattle practice, and has appeared on podcasts including Radio Blowfish (episodes 37 and 57) and Polyamory Weekly (episodes 105 and 106, with her writing also referenced in episode 81). That mix of newspaper column, personal blog, pro site, and audio interviews maps a familiar modern pro-domme media stack: public education, private brand, and community conversation.
Velvet Swing and Business Side
In March 2017, Matisse and Chelsea Cebara began marketing a cannabis-based personal lubricant called Velvet Swing. Legal restrictions limited sales to Washington State and California. The product sits in the same practical lane as her columns: erotic commerce and body-care products aimed at consenting adults, not abstract theory. For kink history on the West Coast, Matisse remains useful as a case of a working dominatrix who also wrote steadily for a mainstream alternative weekly—normalizing advice about power exchange, polyamory, and the labor of pro-domme work for a general adult readership while still speaking as a scene insider.
